LTK: How is the dating scene different for those over 60?Susan Kiner: When we were in high school or college, the competition was limited. And although slim and stylish enough in clothes, he was hardly love’s young dream (or even geriatric dream) when stripped down to black underwear. Here were beta-blockers, statins, warfarin and paracetamol, the standard nightly pharmacopeia of today’s elderly male. He swallowed all his pills, plumped up his pillows and to get into the mood opened his version of hard porn: the New Scientist!I tactfully ignored the gradual revelation of the sunken grey hairy chest, the pallor of ageing flesh and the stick-thin legs. He started to put packets of pills by his bedside table. His first words of love were: 'Do you know about these elusive particles called neutrinos?Most of all, they were somewhat anxious and not quite sure what to do or say.While being outwardly open minded, a significant number of middle-aged adults have more than a little difficulty thinking about Mom or Dad being with a new partner.' Although popularly known as ‘twice nightly Whiteley’ — a reputation he enjoyed and played up to for years — he said, ruefully, that towards the end of his life the reality was more like 'once yearly, nearly'.It’s true that we older women look better and younger than previous generations did at our age.
The people who are least consulted about prohibitions against sexual contact are the older residents themselves, most of whom would like to be left alone, thank you, to work things out for themselves. Here are some interesting facts: In looking at the research from 70,000 feet, certain patterns emerge."He is married, you know."Megan isn't a homewrecker and by the time we made it back to Los Angeles, with the help of Tinder we found her another suitable match, Gary, 68, an accomplished businessman who lives in San Francisco, vacations in Palm Springs, and loves golf.Gary was smitten over message and they met up in between Los Angeles and Palm Springs a few days later. Throughout the weekend, as I explained Megan's preferences to my college girlfriends in their early thirties, they made a face like they had swallowed sour milk and erupted in a chorus of, "That's gross," "ewwwww," and my personal favorite, "he's like my grandpa." To be fair, Uncle Jack was actually someone's grandpa.There were a finite number of females in the "dating pool." Some of today's potential competition hadn't yet been born. You can converse intelligently on a wide variety of subjects. You can look back with laughter and nostalgia as you reminisce with men your age, older, or even younger.It's true that certain men prefer the company of women many years their junior. LTK: Do most people in their 60s want a relationship or a fling? That doesn't necessarily mean marriage, just companionship, fun and sex. Every day a new crop of potential "good ones" comes on the market. ''' Susan Kiner: During perimenopause, the months or years prior to menopause, levels of two female hormones, estrogen and progesterone, vary irregularly.Most men in their 60s are, like my would-be lover: on buckets of pills for their heart, their cholesterol, their blood pressure.